When Husbands Should Validate Disabilities (Always)

Here is a 2009 You Tube video of my husband doing a "surprise" for me in 2009, after I had suffered a setback. He seemed to validate "DYSAUTONOMIA," and yes!.. even "CHRONIC PAIN."

Back in 2009, one thing was for certain: he knew that I was sick, and that I had an Invisible Disability. My YouTube Channel was/is "https://www.youtube.com/user/DysautonomiaMD," and I was named, "DysautonomiaMD".  I made over 200 educational videos on dysautonomia, also starting the First Virtual Medical School that was/is online: www.firstmedschool1.blogspot.com, as well as one of the first blogs on dysautonomia.

For that, I won the 2011 Perseverance Award from the Invisible Disabilities Association at: http://invisibledisabilities.org/ !   A HUGE Thank You to Wayne and Sherri Connell!

And in 2013, a doctor seemed to just... DROP me on the floor!... and there I was again, with Brain Injury #2 AND DI #2.....back in the saddle and ready to FIGHT the GOOD FIGHT.

Even if I had to do it alone, I would FIGHT. 

All my You Tube friends with Dysautonomia helped me to look FORWARD,

to be POSITIVE. Thank you.

DISCUSSION: 
Husbanda, Help your Wives. 
Don't tell her that she is lazy.
Don't tell her to go out and find a job.
Don't tell her that she's a slob.
Don't tell her to take a shower.
Don't ask her where your hot dinner is.
Don't cheat on her. If you do, go ahead and start sleeping in separate bedrooms.
Don't get her to sign deeds in the middle of the night.
Don't poison her food.
Don't try to kill her.
Don't wish she was dead. You want a new life? Leave.
Don't put her away in a mental institution. It only shows that you need it more than she does.

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Dr Aranda's Short Stories

Age 1: A Baby on the Edge

Age 2: Getting Past the Edge of the Bed

Age 3: The Edge of the Cliff

Age 4: Don't Panic

Age 5: The Edge of the Pool

Age 6: Glistening in the Moonlight

Age 7: The Pigeon Boy, The Suction Bush, and The Darkness

Age 8: Selling Cupcakes

Age 9: Sitting on the Edge of the Cave

Age 10: Mr. Bubble

Age 11: Chasing the First Kiss

Age 12: Keeping the Best of the 70's

Age 13: Everything Just So

Age 14: Too Young to Know

Age 15: The Last Thing I Remember

Age 16: Graduating High School

Age 17: Working Working Working

Age 18: How Things Were

Age 19: I Read it in a Book

Age 20: Ways that Can Never Be Forgotten

Age 21: Christmas Carols

Age 22: My Own Crisis

Age 23: A Bloody Mess

Age 24: Applications

Age 25: Leaving One Era and Starting Another

Age 26: Studying through My Tears

Age 27: Repeating the First Year of Medical School

Age 28: Changes

Age 29: Match Day

Age 30: Graduating and Being on the Bottom

Age 31: The Color Blue

My Gratitude List

by Rev. Margaret Aranda, MD, Ph.D.

Background: Keck School of Medicine at USC Graduate, Stanford-trained in Anesthesiology and Critical Care, Doctorate in Forensic Medicine. In 2006, was in a tragic car accident that left me bed-bound with a traumatic brain injury and dysautonomia, for the majority of the last 9 years. Then a doctor dropped me to the floor during a neurologic exam in 2015, giving me another traumatic brain injury. I keep pressing on.

My Gratitude List

1. That I went to the door of Heaven during a Near-Death Experience, and was allowed to receive my request to come back to earth;

2. That I have faith that my symptoms, with God's help, shall improve with time;

3. That I know how to love;

4. That I am grateful for opening my eyes every morning;

5. That I thank God for another day, each and every day;

6. That I don't have to live with a continuous iv any more;

7. That I can still be a Mommy, a teacher, and a Reverend.

8. That I know how to count my blessings; today, that is enough for me.

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Dr Aranda's Short Stories

Age 1: A Baby on the Edge

Age 2: Getting Past the Edge of the Bed

Age 3: The Edge of the Cliff

Age 4: Don't Panic

Age 5: The Edge of the Pool

Age 6: Glistening in the Moonlight

Age 7: The Pigeon Boy, The Suction Bush, and The Darkness

Age 8: Selling Cupcakes

Age 9: Sitting on the Edge of the Cave

Age 10: Mr. Bubble

Age 11: Chasing the First Kiss

Age 12: Keeping the Best of the 70's

Age 13: Everything Just So

Age 14: Too Young to Know

Age 15: The Last Thing I Remember

Age 16: Graduating High School

Age 17: Working Working Working

Age 18: How Things Were

Age 19: I Read it in a Book

Age 20: Ways that Can Never Be Forgotten

Age 21: Christmas Carols

Age 22: My Own Crisis

Age 23: A Bloody Mess

Age 24: Applications

Age 25: Leaving One Era and Starting Another

Age 26: Studying through My Tears

Age 27: Repeating the First Year of Medical School

Age 28: Changes

Age 29: Match Day

Age 30: Graduating and Being on the Bottom

Age 31: The Color Blue

Age 26: Studying through My Tears

To view Article beginning on Age 1, please Click Here.

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by Dr. Margaret Aranda

Well, I was just in my second or third month of medical school, and my husband left me.  It was the first time that I was alone.  I didn't know how to act, who to be, or who I really was.

I came from a big family; there were 7 kids in the house.  Then I ran away when I was 16, and lived with my boyfriend until we got married on the day I turned 18.  We had been together now for 9 years, and now I was 25.  I don't think I had ever spent a day by myself in my whole entire life.  Honestly, I couldn't turn on the radio without wondering what kind of music "I" really liked.

Classical or Country?  70's or oldies?

I hated coming home to an empty apartment.  No people, no voices, no baby coo-coos.  My son was 6 and he was growing up without me.  There are things that I can never tell you, stories that are mine to keep in my soul.  All that I can tell you is that I wasn't going back to my husband.  I couldn't.

He took the money with him.  I was broke.  So I borrowed a car from the dorm manager, once a week to go get groceries.  I tagged along with my friends to church, and I walked to the swimming pool to do my 1500 meters.  I walked in the summer months of 1985, with the fireflies little butts' aglow in the track before me.  In the winter, the same road was aglow this time with ice and snow, and I walked the same walk.  I knew that the water would be waiting before me in the pool, and I could pull the water down and kick and flip at the end, and I could do it over and over again to burst my energy and soothe my being.

The lane stretched out before me, and the blueness matched my soul.

On the last day of school, I got my first "D" in my life.  Neuroanatomy.  All other medical students that failed Neuroanatomy during medical school got shipped to Creighton University in Omaha, Nebraska to repeat the class.  Not me.  

My medical school decided that I would repeat the entire year.

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Dr. Margaret Aranda's Books:

Face Book Page: No More Tears: A Physician Turned Patient Inspires Recovery 

No More Tears en Espanol

Face Book Page: Stepping from the Edge

Little Missy Two-Shoes Likes to go to School

Face Book Page: Little Missy Two-Shoes Likes a Ladybug

From Menarche to Menopause: A Journey through Time

To Order Dr. Aranda's books, please click here:

http://drmargaretaranda.tateauthor.com/other-works/

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For Additional Memoirs by Dr. Margaret Aranda, Please Click Here:

Age 1: A Baby on the Edge

Age 2: Getting Past the Edge of the Bed

Age 3: The Edge of the Cliff

Age 4: Don't Panic

Age 5: The Edge of the Pool

Age 6: Glistening in the Moonlight

Age 7: The Pigeon Boy, The Suction Bush, and The Darkness

Age 8: Selling Cupcakes

Age 9: Sitting on the Edge of the Cave

Age 10: Mr. Bubble

Age 11: Chasing the First Kiss

Age 12: Keeping the Best of the 70's

Age 13: Everything Just So

Age 14: Too Young to Know

Age 15: The Last Thing I Remember

Age 16: Graduating High School

Age 17: Working Working Working

Age 18: How Things Were

Age 19: I Read it in a Book

Age 20: Ways that Can Never Be Forgotten

Age 21: Christmas Carols

Age 22: My Own Crisis

Age 23: A Bloody Mess

Age 24: Applications

Age 25: Leaving One Era and Starting Another

Age 26: Studying through My Tears

Age 27: Repeating the First Year of Medical School

Age 28: Changes

Age 29: Match Day

Age 30: Graduating and Being on the Bottom

Age 31: The Color Blue

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Additional Articles by Dr. Margaret Aranda

Silver Stethoscope Award Nomination

Cultural Variations of Menstruation

Cups, Pads, and Girls in Uganda

Menopause and Painful Intercourse

The IF Tracker

An "Anti-Inflammatory" Meal

Low Sexual Desire in Women: Is it HSDD?

Menstruation, Accidents, and Pilots

What Aristotle Thought of Menstruation

From Menarche through Menopause

The History of Menopause

The Different Types of Hysterectomies

Ovarian Conservation, Ethics, and Informed Consent

My! What Long Telomeres you Have!

Surgical Menopause and Testosterone Therapy

Bears Can Smell the Menstruation: Or Can They?

The Ovaries: Endocrine and Reproduction

Women Helping Women

The Virgin and the Maiden Tribute

Menopause, Painful Intercourse, and Vaginal Dryness

Chapter One: From Menopause through Menarche ~ A Journey through Time

Research Questions on Menopause

Research Questions on Menstruation

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